{"id":981,"date":"2011-05-15T14:02:10","date_gmt":"2011-05-15T21:02:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/melissaruth.com\/blog\/?p=981"},"modified":"2011-05-15T14:39:54","modified_gmt":"2011-05-15T21:39:54","slug":"when-times-get-tough-the-tough-bartend-in-their-kitchen","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/melissaruth.com\/blog\/2011\/05\/when-times-get-tough-the-tough-bartend-in-their-kitchen\/","title":{"rendered":"When Times Get Tough, The Tough Bartend in Their Kitchen"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>Be forewarned, this entry is kind of whiny&#8230;<\/em><\/p>\n<p>We buried my grandfather last Tuesday at the VA cemetary. It was quiet and peaceful and beautiful &#8211; the cemetary is only five years old and only 60 acres of the planned 500 acres has been developed.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>It was an odd feeling, seeing the flag-covered casket and knowing my grandfather was inside there (at all other funerals\/memorials I&#39;ve experiences, the deceased has been cremated). Not gonna lie &#8211; I kind of wanted to open it up and see him in there.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>(I am either disturbed, totally with it, or have seen too many zombie movies?)<\/p>\n<p>Anyway&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>After the brief ceremony, we headed into Vacaville where we went to Fenton&#39;s, a highly overrated and really kind of lame ice cream parlor. Their ice cream is good, I guess, made in house, but their sauces are totally subpar and ruin the whole experience. I&#39;ve been to the &quot;legendary&quot; Fenton&#39;s in Oakland\/Piedmont a number of times and it&#39;s just not a place that would even hit my radar in terms of places to go eat.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: rgb(255, 0, 0);\"><strong>PARTICULARLY AFTER A FUNERAL. WHO GOES AND GETS ICE CREAM AFTER A FUNERAL, IT&#39;S LIKE DANCING ON SOMEONE&#39;S GRAVE.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p>Apparently, MY family goes and gets ice cream after a funeral!<\/p>\n<p>In protest I had a grilled ham and cheese. It was fine, but nothing to write home about, and they put sweet pickles on the plate, not kosher, I mean come on.<\/p>\n<p>From rereading the above, it&#39;s pretty apparent that my reaction to my grandfather&#39;s death skipped most of the steps of grief and landed squarely on ANGER which is manifesting in various classy ways!&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>OMFG.<\/p>\n<p>Anyway, next weekend is the memorial service which I am not looking forward to because I must continue to behave myself when I all want to do is drink cocktails and have myself a pity party for losing both my grandpas within six months of each other.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/melissaruth.com\/blog\/\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/05\/free-vector-cocktails.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" alt=\"\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-983\" height=\"339\" src=\"http:\/\/melissaruth.com\/blog\/\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/05\/free-vector-cocktails.jpg\" title=\"i will drink all of these\" width=\"450\" srcset=\"http:\/\/melissaruth.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/05\/free-vector-cocktails.jpg 450w, http:\/\/melissaruth.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/05\/free-vector-cocktails-300x226.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 450px) 100vw, 450px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Next time on Behind the Smile: Less complaining, more pretty things to look at!<\/p>\n<div id=\"wp_fb_like_button\" style=\"margin:5px 0;float:none;height:30px;\"><script src=\"http:\/\/connect.facebook.net\/en_US\/all.js#xfbml=1\"><\/script><fb:like href=\"http:\/\/melissaruth.com\/blog\/2011\/05\/when-times-get-tough-the-tough-bartend-in-their-kitchen\/\" send=\"false\" layout=\"standard\" width=\"450\" show_faces=\"false\" font=\"arial\" action=\"like\" colorscheme=\"light\"><\/fb:like><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Be forewarned, this entry is kind of whiny&#8230; We buried my grandfather last Tuesday at the VA cemetary. It was quiet and peaceful and beautiful &#8211; the cemetary is only five years old and only 60 acres of the planned 500 acres has been developed.&nbsp; It was an odd feeling, seeing the flag-covered casket and &hellip; <\/p>\n<p class=\"link-more\"><a href=\"http:\/\/melissaruth.com\/blog\/2011\/05\/when-times-get-tough-the-tough-bartend-in-their-kitchen\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\"> &#8220;When Times Get Tough, The Tough Bartend in Their Kitchen&#8221;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-981","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-daily"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/melissaruth.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/981","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/melissaruth.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/melissaruth.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/melissaruth.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/melissaruth.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=981"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"http:\/\/melissaruth.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/981\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":986,"href":"http:\/\/melissaruth.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/981\/revisions\/986"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/melissaruth.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=981"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/melissaruth.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=981"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/melissaruth.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=981"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}