Reverb 10: Days 7-10

Catching up with Reverb 10 after a busy week.

December 7 – Community. Where have you discovered community, online or otherwise, in 2010? What community would you like to join, create or more deeply connect with in 2011? (Author: Cali Harris)

Oh, does this prompt pain me! This has been a year where I have really wished for more community in my life, or at least more friends, because the closest friend I have lives 75 miles away, the closest friend after that lives 350 miles away, and then there are my Texas friends, clocking in at, oh, 1900 miles away (give or take).

I am lucky that I have my family close by, because we are a close family and I spend a lot of time with them. My cousin Amanda is one of my best friends and we try to get together whenever she is up in the Bay Area (she lives in San Diego) – when she was up last time, we had a mini gals-night-out with my sister and our other cousin to Thai food and the new Harry Potter movie.

But in terms of community… Next year it would be great to find a knitting group, or maybe even a beading group (?). It has long been a bummer that I don’t share any common hobbies with any of my friends. I wish ANY of them had hobbies, true fact. But weirdly enough, I apparently have enough hobbies for us all. I actually think it’s super weird when people don’t have hobbies. I mean, what do you do with your free time? Do you seriously sit there and stare at the TV? How lame! I’m not saying I never do that, but it’s pretty rare: I’d rather be productive during TV watching than just sitting there like a big ole couch potato.

Anyway, I would definitely like to find a group of people that share my interests and I can become friends with. It’s hard to make friends the older you get, but it’s not impossible. I’m just really tired of kind of doing this by myself. Also another thing I want to do next year is stop being such a lurker on blogs and Ravelry and whatnot. I read so many blogs but I hardly ever comment. I would like to grow the readership on my own blog, and that is something you have to do if you want to do that.

December 8 – Beautifully Different. Think about what makes you different and what you do that lights people up. Reflect on all the things that make you different – you’ll find they’re what make you beautiful. (Author: Karen Walrond)

I don’t even know how to answer this question without sounding either pompous or pathetic. Or – sorry for myself, because I do sometimes wonder why people even like me at all, since I’m stubborn, set in my ways, and easily annoyed by little things.

But: I’m not easily irritated by big things, and I’m there when you need me, and I show up at the hospital when you’re there to buy you food, I’ll hold your finger together when you’ve chopped it open even though I would rather faint because you’re bleeding like a stuck pig on the kitchen floor (and the counter and my shirt), I can fix a toilet, I can take a great picture, and I can draw like my life depends on it.

What else? I’m extremely educated in politics and economics, I can bake a mean cake, create a most delicious cheese ball, and knit beautiful things.

I don’t have a heart of gold, I like sporadic revenge, and I believe in saying MERRY CHRISTMAS at Christmas time instead of the PC-bullshit Happy Holidays. I’m not interested in making things equal (unless you’re talking about between my sister and I!), I’m interested in doing what’s right. I believe people should work for they get instead of wait for a handout from their government. I believe in the freedom to live your life the best way you know how on your own two feet.

And I hate lima beans with a living, glorious passion.

December 9 – Party. What social gathering rocked your socks off in 2010? Describe the people, music, food, drink, clothes, shenanigans.

Probably the Authors Under the Stars Gala I went to last month with my dad. I’m not super social, and I try to go to these things when I can because it helps me develop my under-developed skills. Anyway, this was a fancy party at the new library, which was a lot more “upper class” than I’m used to – I mean, all the guys were wearing suits and most of the ladies in cocktail dresses and heels (myself included). There was champagne and a dozen local, published authors. My group ate dinner with Julianne Balmain, who writes mysteries under the pseudonym Nadia Gordon. It was a very fun evening! Following the dinner, there was a talk with T.J. Stiles, author of The First Tycoon: The Epic Life of Cornelius Vanderbilt, which one both the Pulitzer Prize and the National Book Award (I believe only two or three other books have managed the same feat). That was very interesting and next year I hope to read the copy my dad bought at the event. At any rate, it was fun to hobnob with people I normally don’t and eat food that I didn’t pay for and generally pretend I am rich.

December 10 – Wisdom. What was the wisest decision you made this year, and how did it play out?

I don’t really make a lot of big huge decisions, I generally let my life play out as it should. But the big thing that I did decide to do (other than accept a job offer at my current job) is blow a big wad of cash on my trip to Texas in July/August. It maybe wasn’t the wisest decision financially, but it was the RIGHT decision. Being able to be there for my friend on the day she was supposed to be married before the bottom fell out of her life, that was really important to me. It was good to see my girls; I really miss them.